Monthly Archives: July 2015

Fashion is NOT for Women


brucejenner Most of the time, what people do to their bodies and how they live their lives don’t bother me. Not my circus, not my monkeys, but this whole Bruce/Caitlyn Jenner thing really got me. Maybe because he was such an iconic figure; he was deemed the “World’s Greatest Athlete” for Pete’s sake. And he was a good-looking man (before he started getting all the work done) with a gorgeous, athletic body to go with it. He was the ideal man. I mean really, it’s no wonder I can’t find the right guy… all of the good ones come out as gay or decide they want to be a woman.

And for the life of me, I just cannot understand why a man would want to be a woman. There’s just too much crap to deal with: make up, shaving our legs, underarms and bikini areas, dealing with hair styles and going gray, heels that lead to aching feet, fake nails, keeping our toes done, having different outfits for every situation (a pair of khakis and a golf shirt go a long way for men), bathing suits, the qualms of aging (men become more “distinguished” with age, women just age…) and all of the expenses to maintain ourselves. I could certainly understand a woman wanting to become a man.

Jeez….but I digress…

That isn’t what truly bothers me. I was reading an article about the Vanity Fair cover Jenner appeared on. The stylist for the shoot, Jessica Diehl, said this:

caitlyn5-5  “She’s all-American in so many ways…. Welcome to the world of   women’s fashion! …she has a pretty good idea of what makes her feel good, and those are classic silhouettes. She has a fantastic physique. It’s just a totally well-taken-care-of physique. She’s an athlete, so the muscle tone is incredible. She’s slim, and her proportions are very easy to dress.”

“We had basically a three or four-hour fitting. I have to say, out of that three or four-hour fitting, there were only two things we did not like. Everything looks good on her. That just doesn’t happen,” Diehl revealed.


This bothers me. A lot. Now the “all-American” woman isn’t even a woman. And welcoming her/him to the world of women’s fashion where “everything looks good on her” speaks volumes about the fashion industry. They aren’t styling for women; they’re obviously styling clothes for a man’s body (with fake boobs). How many average women are 6’2” with no hips and are previous Olympic gold medalists? No wonder “her” muscle tone is incredible.

Now I know this is nothing new. For years, the fashion industry has pushed an unrealistic body image that sent women on absurd diets, some leading to eating disorders and just ruining the self-esteem of others. And the use of pre-pubescent girls whose’ bodies have not yet taken the shape of a true women, is still the norm. The fashion industry is always going to go for the tall, leggy thin types…But at least they are female.. I think…. I am starting to question some of those Victoria Secret models.


You’re Going Where??


That’s a question I’ve heard  a great deal lately…

Yes – My friend Linda and I are going to Croatia…SOON!  Dubrovnik to be precise. For all of you “Game of Thrones” fans, Dubrovnik is the setting for Kings Landing.   It is one of the most intact walled medieval cities in Europe…. yes.. Europe..  This time last year, I never would have guessed I’d be going there.

Yes – It is safe.. we are not going to the Middle East, which is what I had to explain to my mother and some others. (Mom looked for it on some ancient atlas she had… not there.  It used to be a part of Yugoslavia and gained independence in 1991).  It is predominantly a Christian country.  A little geography lesson.  Croatia is across the Adriatic Sea from Italy.  In fact, it kills me knowing how close I’m going to be to Italy and not actually go.

Why Croatia?  Long story short.. Linda has already been to Italy;  I watch the Travel Channel .. a lot…. and I saw a show on Croatia.  It’s absolutely stunning.  I mentioned it to her… of course her reply was “Where?”   I sent pictures and she was in.  Dubrovnik is on the coast with beautiful clear-as-glass water.  They say the seafood is spectacular.  Some travel to see things; I travel to see and EAT!  I think you can learn so much about a place through their local foods.  And I must add, Croatian wine is supposedly very good.  Olive oil is another star of the region.  You can go a head and assume I’ll be shipping both back home.

I won’t post pictures I’ve found now.. I’m going to wait to post my very own.  But here’s a sweet link….

If you’ve been and have tips, let me know!

I’m so excited I can’t stand it!  17 Days….



6 month Update: New Years’ Resolutions


I typically don’t make resolutions… Much less put them in writing. I did this year and posted it for all to see.


I’ve failed miserably at half of No. 1. I’ve tried multiple times to get myself back into running. In 2010, after getting separated, my friend encouraged me to join a run group.  Now it was a great decision as far as giving me something to focus on (I signed up for a half marathon… not sure what I was thinking) and I met some wonderful friends.  I was hoping the running bug would bite me and I would be one of those that just HAD to run. Well, it didn’t. It was work for me. I did complete my race and took a break.  Trying to get back into it has proved futile.  Hurt myself several times; had to wear a lovely boot twice – in the middle of summer.  So, long story short, I’ve discovered I’m more of a gym rat. I get bored with the same ol’ things; I like trying new classes. Hmmmm, maybe it’s some of that ADD. So – running no, working out, yes and stretching. I’ve even taken up a barre class!

No. 2… I have done STELLAR at this one! How? I decided to take a dating hiatus this year. No online crap, no singles group. And I have to say my stress level has been greatly reduced. (I may have to take it back up for content though. My friends loved hearing those stories.) I do not miss it! I suppose if I where to ever meet the “right one” I would, but at the moment, I’m enjoying being free.

Oh No. 3…. I don’t know if I’ll ever be successful at this one. I have two alarms, one across the room. I don’t hit the snooze on that one; instead, I just sleep through it. I don’t sleep well through the night .. But at 6:00 a.m., I’m out.. Naturally.

No. 4. Well, I think I’ve done ok. I think we can all do better on this one. Definitely gets harder to make new friends as we get older. I have found some others of like-mind and situation and we have fun.  Hold on to the good ones you have.

No. 5.  I learned my lesson the hard way on this one New Year’s Eve, hence the resolution.  I have been successful despite hanging with my brother and sister-in-law.

Now there is another one … One that I’ve always had, I’ve just never called it a resolution but more of an ongoing quest: TO TRAVEL.  I am keeping my promise on this. I am preparing for my biggest travel adventure yet. Three weeks ….


Talking To Myself



I was an English major.. for a reason.  I suck at math and am only mediocre at grasping technology… but getting better.   I thought starting a blog would be a terrific creative outlet for me.  It never occurred to me that setting it up would involve terms like SEC, RSS feed, content management system, target audience, host site, managed sites, domain name, widget, plugins, vs…   I mean, WOW, talk about information overload!

I’ve spent the past three weeks on an info seeking mission.  I’ve read everything from “How to Start Your Own Blog from Nothing” to “How to Attract 1,000 Readers Your First Week.”  I’ve jotted tons of topic ideas on various scraps of paper and agonized over what to call the thing.  The past two days alone, I’ve changed my mind a half-dozen times on a title… even polling some of my friends.  I started wondering if I was really going to do this.  Then it came to me last night, I was using all of these reasons to procrastinate … again.

I’m a terrible procrastinator.  I make myself believe I’m more creative under pressure.. which, ok, sometimes is true.  You’ll definitely do something if a deadline is looming. I knew what I needed to do… just put words on paper.. or in this case, on the screen and just go from there.   So I opened (which apparently is THE program to use), took another 15 minutes trying to settle on a domain name (after I thought I already had it), and then searched and searched through the templates to use for the site.  I’ve changed that several times too…   Maybe I’m a commitment phoebe….

Was having serious issues committing to my fist post topic.  Should it be about me?.. introducing myself or should I just dive right into one of the tons of topics scattered on my table? Couldn’t decide.  That’s when I started talking to myself… or should I say arguing with myself…no, not arguing, discussing – that’s a little more positive.  I do this, out loud, when I’m having issues deciding on something.  Is that crazy??

I don’t think it’s crazy if it works… during my discussion, I recalled the old saying “write what you know”.. and well, not knowing is what I know at the moment.   So here’s my first post!

Now you have an idea of how my mind works.  Wouldn’t it be fun to be in there?  As with most things in my life, its a virtual potluck of what you might find here.  I don’t really plan, I just do.

…and I might have a touch of ADD

By the way.. the title of this post started off being a title of the blog site…