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Bucket List Trip

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As we await the outcome of my chalk paint project, thought I would catch you guys up on my summer.  I took a bucket list trip.  I had not intended on doing anything like that this year.  My friend and I were just going to take a short, non-extravagant trip to get away.  Well, a couple of bottles of wine later on a cold February evening, we ended up planning a trip to Greece. And not just any trip, we were going to board a tall sailing ship and sail around the Greek Islands.  And that’s just what we did.

A little history.  Several years ago, I began perusing the internet for group travel; specifically, travel designed for solo or single travelers.  Came across one that intrigued me but was more than I was willing to spend at the time.  Ever since, I’ve stalked this site.  Three or four glasses of wine into the conversation, I brought up this site and mentioned this little Greece trip they had listed and things went from there…

So, yes, we went with a group of 32 single travelers to Greece. Our trip began in Athens and we sailed to Rhodes, Bodrum-Turkey, Daylan River-Turkey, Santorini, and Hydra.  Check out some of my pictures under Adventure Pics on the top menu. It was exhilarating, exhausting, exciting and everything in between.  If you every have the opportunity to go on a trip with a group of strangers, Do It!  You meet some wonderfully interesting people.  For me, that’s half the fun.

A few interesting things from my trip (FB friends – old stuff for you!):

  1. Bright orange “singles” sign at the airport is a source of laughter for Greek teenagers.
  2. I got pooped on by a pigeon in Athens.
  3. Greek tour guides like to share copious amounts of details. Info overload ..
  4. The scale of some of these monuments i.e. Parthenon, Temple of Zeus, are unbelievable.
  5. I shed a few tears when the sails went up on our first night .. could have been the champagne…
  6. Of the 70ish crew members there were 10 nationalities represented. Of the 178 passengers, there were 10.
  7. You most definitely feel a tall sailing ship moving and rocking. If you get motion sickness – not for you.
  8. Amazing how you can misplace things in a tiny cabin…
  9. Amazing that it can be ridiculously hard to find your cabin on a small ship.. again, could have been the champagne… and ouzo.
  10. I heard more disco music in 10 days than I’ve heard in 10 years.
  11. “Entrees” on our menu were starters. “Les Plats” were the main course. Yep, a French themed menu on a Greek cruise…
  12. “Sea Episodes” on land are real.
  13. New York cabbies got nothin’ on Turkish cabbies 😳
  14. The Swedish family on board most definitely looked, well… Swedish.
  15. Our nurse on the ship was also a waiter … lots of multitasking.
  16. Apostle Paul visited Rhodes.
  17. Watch the swinging doors on a sailing ship… they can be deadly.
  18. Santorini was inhabited before 2000 BC.
  19. You most definitely do not want to get stuck in a dungeon in a castle.
  20. We had a waiter named Titot.
  21. I rode a camel in Turkey named Arab.
  22. Portholes in swimming pools can entertain adults for at least an hour.
  23. A sulfur warm water bath followed with mud does make your skin feel great, if not stinky.
  24. Grilled octopus is yummy.
  25. Group travel is truly amazing.

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Don’t woo me with words and leave me hanging

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Today’s dating world is miles apart from the dating days of my youth. And I say that with a smirk.  I never dated until I was in college. Maybe I missed out on the basics 101 of dating?  Still though, it was a time before cell phones, Facebook, texting and online dating.  People met through friends, at school or out somewhere; a conversation ensued and numbers were exchanged.  A date was arranged and the guy would pick up the girl and out they would go for drinks or dinner or a movie.  Time was spent together along with long chats on the phone. Oh how things have changed.  Now, your fate depends on a left or right swipe and a short paragraph that’s supposed to grab someone’s attention. Introductions are made through text or emails. To think about how many texts I’ve received over the past five years is mind boggling.  Conversations have been diminished  to short little texts with an emoji that’s supposed to express the mood of the words… which aren’t even words anymore… BFF, BRB, LOL, WRUD…. And sexting. Really???  I’ve never felt less sexy.  And for someone to push that in my face when they don’t even know me, well… it’s a bit degrading.  How are you supposed to get to know someone that way?  You can’t.  Relationships aren’t built on emojis and dirty one-liners from pornos. Does anyone have basic conversation skills anymore?  Men and women have enough communication problems without this mess.

I could fill pages ranting on texting in the dating arena and dating in general. I admit, I rely heavily on texting concerning my friends.  But in dating, no.. It should not be the main mode of communication when trying to get to know someone. When that becomes the case,  I’ve learned to pay attention to actions. “Actions speak louder than words.” It’s a saying we’ve all heard but pay little attention.  Words are easy.  Made even easier by the impersonal text, which is also very one-dimensional.  With text, you have no references: was there a joking smile with a comment or a wink of an eye?  Was their tone of voice serious?  Did the person look away or make eye contact?  There’s no touch of a hand for reassurance.  It’s not a good vehicle to share and express emotions and feelings. We read into them what we want.   I was seeing someone who knew exactly what to say to me.  He flattered me with  sweet little texts every morning and throughout the day and I fell for it.   Who doesn’t want to hear they are beautiful?  Isn’t it wonderful to read that someone’s thinking of you and wants to see you?  It was short-lived bliss.  When confronted with the question  “when will I see you?” and all he had were excuses, the gig was up.  The sweet sentiment of his words were lost on his actions.

Begging someone to be apart of our lives shouldn’t be a part of the dating equation.  If it is, then it’s not meant to be.  We shouldn’t be left wondering what that I ♥ U!! truly means or if  WRUD really means they are interested and want to see us.  Our actions reveal our true intentions.  If feelings are mutual, finding time to talk and be together is something you just do. It’s really that simple.